The Problem of a parishioner

The following post is based on a story I heard from Swami Adiswarananda, the Spiritual Leader of the Ramakrishna Vivekananda Center in New York from 1973 to 2007.

In a church, a father used to come with his 10-year-old son. They would come regularly and sit in the first row. The priest found that after five minutes of his sermon, the father would fall asleep until the end of the lecture. Sometimes the father used to snore a little bit and his snoring would wake him up. But, again he would fall asleep.

The priest thought to himself, how he could stop this father from falling asleep. He tried to change his voice pattern in the middle of his talk. Sometimes he raised his voice to heighten the emotions and sometimes he talked very softly when appealing for love for God. But, nothing worked. The father sometimes opened his eyes for a few seconds and again would go back to sleep.

Finally, the priest had a brilliant idea. After the sermon, when the father was deeply engaged in talking to few parishioners, the priest called the son to his side and told him, “This is a secret. It is only between us. Please do not tell your father. Next time when you come to the Church’s service, I will give you $1 if you wake your father up whenever he sleeps during my sermon.” The son was happy that the priest considered him to be special, and was happy at the prospect of getting a $1 each time he would come to church. He said, “Okay, I will do my best.” The priest gave him $1 in advance.

The following Sunday, the father and son came and sat in the first row. The sermon began and within a few minutes the father started sleeping. The priest looked at the son and the son politely elbowed the father. The father woke up. It happened three to four times. Then, the father felt bad and he tried to focus his mind on the sermon. After the sermon, the priest was very happy and found a moment when he slipped another $1 to the son.

This went on for some time. The priest was happy about his brilliant idea. Then, one Sunday, the same thing happened. The father and the son came, sat in the first row, and as soon as the sermon began, within a few minutes the father started sleeping. The priest looked at the son, but the son was not waking his father up. The son was totally ignoring the priest’s eye signals to wake his father up. Finally, the sermon was over.  The priest found time to talk to the son and asked him why he didn’t wake his father up. The son replied that his father gave him $5 for not trying to wake him up! 🙂 🙂 🙂

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Reflection:

We find that students sleep in the classrooms and in libraries, people sleep while watching certain T.V. shows or listening to music, and most people sleep on a car, bus, train, plane, or boat journey. In the same way, many people sleep during prayers, sermons, spiritual talks or lectures. I think this is true for any religion and in every religious place of worship.

In one church, after the Sunday service, a lady went to the priest and said that he should not be offended by her husband who walked out in the middle of the service. She said that her husband has a habit of walking in his sleep. 🙂 🙂 🙂

I have found that many people who regularly attend prayers and spiritual discourses develop a habit of falling asleep at some point during the prayers, japa, meditation, and talks. If they do not completely fall asleep, at the very least their eyes start closing and then they have to try hard to keep themselves awake. It is understandable that due to a lack of sleep or being exhausted by the whole day’s intense work, people fall asleep. However, many times exhaustion is not the reason and sleeping actually becomes a habit. Initially, when people start doing japa, meditation, or listening to spiritual discourses, they are excited and remain active, but then something happens.  After some time, they start developing this habit of sleeping during spiritual practices. Many times people feel that they have had a great meditation when in reality it is not due to spiritual upliftment but because of having deep sleep during meditation.

Swami Adiswarananda used to say that this sleeping habit during spiritual practices, technically known as ‘Laya,’ is a major obstacle in the spiritual path. When a person with a restless mind sits for regular spiritual practices, then he/she unknowingly develops a kind of ‘rut’ which takes the mind to sleep. During the spiritual practices whether it is a prayer, japa, meditation, reading scriptures, or listening to a spiritual discourse, the mind naturally gets quiet and for most people when the mind becomes quiet, it knows only one thing – to sleep. A sincere seeker of the Highest Truth or the Ultimate Reality has to be very careful about this obstacle. If we do not make conscious effort to stay away from this sleeping habit during spiritual practices, then we do not get any benefit from the practices and we would be wasting the most important resource of our life –time.

There are four states of our mind: Tamasika, Rajasika, Sattvika, and Turiya (beyond the three gunas).

In the Tamasika state of mind, the mind becomes lazy, wants to sleep and remain dull, and gets dominated by inertia and lethargy. It does not want to work or learn anything. There is no desire to achieve anything. It wants to remain in ignorance. There is a darker side of tamas, which is rajasika tamas in which the mind yields to harmful activities like hurting oneself and others.

In the Rajasika state of mind, the mind is filled with thousands of worldly desires. It wants millions of things to achieve and has millions of dreams. Such a mind is filled with ego, arrogance, selfishness, lust, greed, anger, jealousy, delusion, and hatred. It thinks about its own joy, happiness, and benefits and its mantra is ‘Me’, ‘Me’, and ‘Me.’ The sattvika-rajasika state of mind makes helpful plans, looks for one’s own inner development and engages in ideas to help all unselfishly.

In the Sattvika state of mind, the mind limits desires and activities to the most necessary ones. It thinks highly of virtues like truth, honesty, integrity, compassion, self-discipline, self-control, forgiveness, humility, love for all and others. It also makes efforts to practice these values. A mind in this state looks for knowledge, especially the knowledge of one’s true divine identity. It seeks peace within and without. It wants to serve all unselfishly.

In the Turiya (beyond the three gunas) state of the mind, the mind is in communion with the Ultimate Reality, the true divine identity of oneself. It realizes that there is One Brahman (Pure Consciousness) which has become everything. It is a state of Sat-Chit-Ananda (Existence-Knowledge-Bliss Absolute). In this state, the mind has no awareness of its own. It merges with the Ultimate Reality. The mind cannot remain in that state for a long time. In order to survive, it has to come down to the body-mind-level, to the awareness of an individual as a separate existence.

Through spiritual practices, one can control the tamas and rajas to the minimum-needed level, establish oneself in the sattvika state, and desire to go beyond the three gunas. When we develop a sleeping-habit during spiritual practices, we keep ourselves in the tamas state and never allow ourselves to rise to a higher level. Many times when a high-achieving person with the rajasika state of mind, starts doing spiritual practices, in the name of God he/she becomes a lazy, less productive and a low-achieving person. Spiritual practices should make us more efficient, productive, alert, sharp, self-controlled and joyful. They help one develop a clear understanding of oneself and others, and his/her dealings with others become more friendly and loving. Therefore, we have to watch out for this obstacle called ‘Laya’.

Main reasons for sleeping during spiritual practices:

(1) Lack of spiritual interest

(2) Lack of understanding of the importance of spiritual development

(3) Craving for worldly desires and thinking that worldly objects give us real happiness

(4) Engaging in too many worldly activities which make the body and mind exhausted

(5) Getting into a rut (Laya)

(6) Not acquiring inspiration from spiritual practices

(7) Not experiencing any bliss

What to do?

(1 – 2 – 3): When we do not understand the importance of spiritual development, then we do not develop spiritual interest. Sages and saints have realized that everyone sooner or later is going to realize the importance of spiritual development in life. The world is made in such a way that it eventually makes us think, “What is the goal of our life?”.

The world presents various goals in front of us: Is money-making our goal of life? Is it collecting name and fame? Is it experiencing the maximum intellectual pleasure and/or bodily-pleasures? Is it acquiring any worldly achievement? Is it in making a family? People in the past, as will be the case in the future, have learned, from various experiences of the world, that none of these worldly goals give us longer lasting happiness, a sense of security, fearlessness, a sense of fulfilment in life, a deeper understanding of ourselves and others, and love for all. Sages and saints have realized that only in realizing our true identity as a divine being, do we attain everything we are seeking in life. When we understand this, then and then only will we develop genuine spiritual interest in our life. We have to realize that worldly joy is limited. We pay a high price for worldly joy, and ultimately we find that in seeking this joy, our sufferings increase a thousand fold.

(4) When the importance of spiritual development is realized and our spiritual interest develops, then automatically our useless worldly activities become reduced.

(5) During our spiritual practices we have to keep an eye on ourselves so that we do not fall into a ‘rut’ and instead let our mind remain focused on what we are doing. If we are doing japa or meditation, then our mind should feel the presence of our chosen form of God or our true divine identity (Atman). If we are reading a spiritual book, then we have to try to grasp the essence of the content of the book and try to learn ideas or practices that help us in our spiritual development. If we are doing prayer, then we can should keep our mind on the meaning of the prayer and try to feel the presence of the one to whom we are praying.

Sometimes, people think that the same prayer may develop a ‘rut’, so they keep changing the prayer. But, this is not a good idea. Swami Adiswarananda said, “If you want to enjoy the (spiritual) fruits, then take care of the (spiritual) roots.”  If we keep one prayer, one mantra, and one chosen form of God, then we develop spiritual roots.  Sri Ramakrishna said that if we keep digging a little bit at lots of places in the earth, we do not get water. To get water, first we consult experts, find a possible place from where we can get water, and then keep digging until water comes. Every now and then we may consult our progress with the experts. Similarly, in our spiritual path, we have to keep doing our regular spiritual practices until we get the results.

(6 – 7) After doing spiritual practices regularly and sincerely for a while with love and avoiding slackness, by God’s grace a time comes when we start deriving inspiration from our spiritual practices. It may not happen every time, but many times after our spiritual practice, we acquire new thoughts, new ideas, and new directions for improvement. We become clear about our strengths and weaknesses, and ways to overcome our obstacles. I have been reading the Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna from my childhood, but still many times the teachings become clearer and sometimes I feel ‘why didn’t I notice this wonderful or helpful thought before?’ This is because our state of mind changes due to more experiences or change in our life.

At some point we all wish, by the grace of God, to experience the divine bliss. Sages and saints say that once we experience this bliss, then we will not want to deviate from our spiritual path and will continue to work hard until we reach our spiritual goal – the realization of our true divine identity (Atman) and to do selfless service.

(Thanks to Nisha Parikh for editing this post and Arundhati Johri for the illustration.)

“Bhalo Thanathan Das!”

The following post is based on a story I heard from Swami Adiswarananda, the Spiritual Leader of the Ramakrishna Vivekananda Center in New York from 1973 to 2007.

There was a rich man in West Bengal named Thanathan Das. He lived in a big mansion, owned several properties and pieces of land, ran many businesses, and had a nice family. He was happy with almost everything in his life, except for his name. His parents had given him this name. He was more engrossed in establishing his business and taking care of his family, so he did not think much about his name. But as he worked to establish his businesses, he met lots of people and he found that people chuckled when he mentioned his name.  This made him unhappy. After some thought, he decided to change his name. He called his most reliable manager and asked him to find a nice new name.

The manager was surprised by this request, but he had to please his boss. He thought for a couple of days and decided to suggest the name ‘Bharata’, a name of Rama’s brother from the Ramayana.  He told Thanathan Das that Bharata is a very good name. In the Ramayana, Rama loved Bharata very dearly and because of Bharata’s love for Rama, he is loved by all. Bharata kept Rama’s sandals on the throne and ruled the kingdom. He showed that Rama was the actual king and he was only a caretaker. Thanathan Das was extremely happy with this name. Now, he proudly began introducing himself as Bharata. A few days went by. One day, he was passing through the market and wanted to buy a few fish. Usually, his servants did the shopping, but that day he wanted to do the shopping himself.

He approached one fisherman who was selling fish and asked for the price of the fish. After some negotiation to reduce the price, he bought a few fish. While leaving he asked the fisherman his name.  The fisherman said that his name was Bharata.  Thanathan Das was startled to hear that his name was also Bharata and instantly, he no longer liked his name. He called his manager and asked him to find another name.

After a couple of days, the manager suggested ‘Lakshmana’ as his new name. He explained that Lakshmana was always with Lord Rama and sacrificed everything to help Lord Rama and Mother Sita. Thanathan Das was happy to change his name to Lakshmana. He was again proud of his name for a few months, until one day he found a man cutting grass in the water.

Thanathana Das who was now Lakshmana Das was touched by the man’s hard work. He called him to take some rest and offered him some money as a gift. The man was touched and saluted Lakshmana Das. Then, Lakshmana Das asked him “What is your name?” The man who was cutting the grass said, “Sir! My name is Lakshmana.” Thanathan Das was upset. He did not show his frustration to the man, but he immediately left that place and came home.  He started screaming and called his manager. The manager came running to find out what was the matter.  Lakshmana Das said to him, “Find me another name and do not find any name from the Ramayana or Mahabharata.  Lots of people select their names from the characters of these epics and I do not want to see myself as equal to them. The manager said, “Please relax, Sir! I will find another name which is not from the Ramayana or the Mahabharata”.

After a couple of days, he suggested the name ‘Amar.’ The manager told Lakshmana Das that ‘Amar’ means one who is immortal. I have checked with many people and found that no one has that name and also none of their relatives or friends has that name. Lakshmana Das was pleased with the suggestion. He went to his temple, did some puja, and changed his name to Amar Das. For a couple of years, he did not find anyone whose name was ‘Amar’ and thus he enjoyed his name. One day, as he was passing by on a street, he heard lots of men and women were crying.

He found that someone had died and a few people were carrying his dead body on their shoulders. He inquired who died. A family person of the dead man told him with sobbing that one who died was very dear to him and his name was ‘Amar’. Lakshmana Das also felt like crying, not because of the death of this person, but because the dead man had the same name as him.

This time Amar Das was not mad. He was in deep thought. He went back to his office. He did not greet anyone, went to his room and sat down in his chair with a serene face. The manager felt that something was wrong with the boss. He came to him and asked him, “Sir! Is everything alright with you?” Then, he said, “O Manager! I learned a great lesson today. I learned that my original name ‘Thanathan Das’ was the best name possible. From now on, I just want to be known as ‘Thanathan Das’ and no one else.” The manager asked, “May I know why you decided that way?”

Then, Thanathan Das said, “Listen!

(Bharat jo he machhali beche.) 
Bharata was selling fish.

(Lakshman kate ghaas.)
Lakshmana was cutting grass.

(Amar jo he mara gaya.)
Amar who was supposed to be immortal had died.

(Bhalo Thanathan Das.)
So, I think ‘Thanathan Das’ is the best name for me. No one has such a name and I am proud of my name which was given to me by my parents.

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Reflections:

 Once a recently appointed Swami called Swami Adiswarananda and told him that here in USA people keep changing their religious denominations frequently. To him, Swami Adiswarananda explained:  this is the USA. Everything here is changing at a fast pace. People frequently change their hair, clothes, facial look, jobs, cars, houses, cities, countries and even their spouses. So, get used to it.

All people want to be happy. No one wants to be unhappy. Some people even derive happiness from their pain or suffering.

One reason people look for change is that they are not happy with what they have. This is a usual scenario: people want something and they work hard for it, but when they get it they are not happy with it.

Change is good if it is for a higher purpose. But when one becomes a slave of the demands of one’s mind and its idiosyncrasies and looks for a change to fulfill the mind’s desires for happiness, then most of the time the change does not bring happiness. Many times, one ends up in more unhappiness than before.

Happiness is not in the object. It is in the state of the mind. Suppose I like the Indian sweet “Gulabjambu” and someone offers it to me.

When I am ready to eat it with all my delight, a phone-call comes and I find that one of my dearest friends or relatives is in the hospital for some serious problem. At that time, I leave the “Gulabjambu” on the side and run to the hospital. At that time if someone says ‘just eat the Gulabjambu first and then go’, I will feel that that person is my enemy.

I can present another situation. Suppose nothing unpleasant thing happens and I am enjoying eating Gulabjambu. Someone keeps feeding me. Suppose I ate 12 or 15 Gulabjambus.  After eating this many Gulabjambus, I no longer enjoy its taste. If someone presses me hard to eat more, then I might throw up. Thus, most of the sense-pleasures are good for a short time or within their limitations. After a point, the mind gets fed up and it does not enjoy anymore. After some bitter experiences, some of the joys even become painful and distasteful.

Rishis of the Upanishads realized the ultimate truth and declared that the real happiness is in being one with our true identity, which is Atman or Self. This Atman is the support of our existence. Its nature is Sat-Chit-Ananda, Existence-Knowledge-Bliss Absolute. This Atman is the same as Brahman that manifests as the whole universe. When we see varieties of things and do not see Brahman behind them, then we become deceived and run after these things to be “happy.” But as I mentioned before, we get bored by these limited things (perceived as devoid of Brahman) and we try desperately to keep changing things to be happy.

In Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, Rishi Yajnavalkya said, “Verily, not for the sake of the beings, my dear, are the beings loved, but they are loved for the sake of the Self. Verily, not for the sake of All, my dear, is the All loved, but it is loved for the sake of the Self. Verily, my dear Maitreyi, it is the Self that should be realized-should be heard of, reflected on, and meditated upon. By the realization of the Self, my dear-through hearing, reflection, and meditation-all this is known.” (2.4.5)

In Taittiriya Upanishad 2.8, it has been mentioned that all the joys of the world combined together are just a very small fraction of the bliss one experiences when one realizes the Self (Atman).

We learn from this that external changes may not bring happiness. True happiness comes when we realize our true identity, the Self. Then, we will be happy in any situation. So, we have to make efforts to realize our Self (Atman).

(Thanks to Sonali Tatapudy and Rushil Desai for editing this post and to Shailey Patel for the illustrations.)

New Way of Fishing

The following post is based on a story I had heard from Swami Adiswarananda, the Spiritual Leader of the Ramakrishna Vivekananda Center in New York from 1973 to 2007.

In cities like New York, all ideas fly. If anyone has some new idea to sell, there are customers to buy that idea.

On the bank of the Hudson River where fishing is allowed, a person put up a sign:

New Way of Fishing!

For $100 only, learn a faster way of fishing.

No need to spend money on rods and baits!

John was walking around the bank of the Hudson River. He saw a few people fishing. He thought that he should have brought his fishing rod. Then, he could have spent time fishing. He walked a little distance and saw this sign advertising a new way of fishing. He smiled and thought to himself, “Wow! My thought has power. I thought of fishing, I do not have any fishing rods, and here is a man telling me how to fish without a fishing rod. Let me learn something new and have a good time.”

John approached the man and asked him, “How can one fish without a fishing rod?” The man said, “In New York, everything has a cost. Give me $100 and I will show you how to fish without a fishing rod.” John was thinking whether he should spend $100 or not. He thought $100 is too much to learn this new way of fishing.

He walked away from the man. But, he was thinking, “Everything in New York is expensive. Compared to all other prices, $100 for a new idea is cheap. Maybe I will learn this new way and show off to my friends. Perhaps I can teach this trick to a few others and either get my money back or maybe earn more. It is good that I withdrew a couple of hundred dollars from the ATM a few hours ago.”

John came back to the guy. He gave him a $100 bill and asked him to teach him the new way of fishing.

The guy said, “See, you have to buy a powerful mirror like this.” He showed him the mirror. Then, he continued, “Reflect the rays of the sun from the mirror to the group of fish or an individual fish. The fish will be blinded by the rays of the sun and will stop moving. At that time, you can go and catch the fish. See, it is so easy. You do not need a rod or bait.”

John was puzzled. He was not sure whether he was learning a new way of fishing or if he was being tricked. He gathered courage and asked him, “How many fish have you caught so far with this new method?”

The guy said, “You are the fifth one!” 🙂 🙂 🙂

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Reflections: 

 Beware of the people who are trying to teach us short cuts or new ways to avoid the necessary work involved in achieving something important. There may be a few genuine cases in which short-cuts or new ways may help us. But, most of the time these are gimmicks.

Surely, we have to keep learning new ways. But, we should not get cheated by greedy or shrewd people who take advantage of the simple-minded. There is no substitute for hard work. I really like Thomas A. Edison’s famous quote, “Genius is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.” He also said, “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to success is always to try just one more time.”

There are no shortcuts in the spiritual path. We have to follow the paths which have been described by the Saints and Sages who have realized the highest Truth. Swami Adiswarananda said that no one mimics the dirt (meaning creates fake dirt), but many people create fake gold because gold is expensive.  Thus, there are many people who have tried and are still trying to create shortcuts or new ways to realize the highest Truth since spirituality is the most important part of our lives. But, almost all of them try to drag spirituality either to sense pleasures or to social entertainment or to develop schemes to make money or to earn position and power. Genuine spiritual teachers will ask us to go through the unavoidable hardships (austerities) of spiritual practices and will never compromise the ultimate Truth.

Shri Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita said, “Help thyself by thyself. You are your greatest friend and you are your enemy. One who has attained self-control is one’s own friend and one who lacks self-control is one’s own enemy.” (Bhagavad Gita 6.5 and 6.6)

Shri Krishna emphasizes on self-efforts and says, “With firm determination, lift up the mind systematically and steadily from the body-mind and its related world with the help of the intellect, and focus it on the Atman (one’s true identity). Then, do not think of anything else.” (Bhagavad Gita 6.25). He further said, “If the restless and unsteady mind runs towards the body-mind and the objects of the world, then bring it back from these objects and again focus it on to the Atman.” (Bhagavad Gita 6.26).

Thus, there is no short-cut in spiritual path. We can take help from outside, but ultimately we have to do the required spiritual practice to uplift our self from the lesser truth to the higher truth.

(Thanks to Pallavi Tatapudy for editing this post and Viraj Khetani for the illustration.)

“He Thinks: ‘I am God!’”

            The following post is based on a story I had heard from Swami Adiswarananda, the Spiritual Leader of the Ramakrishna Vivekananda Center in New York from 1973 to 2007.

In most cultures, when a young girl finds a boy to marry, she introduces the boy to her parents and waits for their comments and/or consents. If the consents come immediately at the first meeting, then the girl is very happy. Sometimes, the consent of her parents comes after some time, during which the parents happily or unhappily have to change their traditional mindset about their son-in-law to make their daughter happy. Many times, parents do not agree to their daughter marrying the boy she likes and the daughter has to leave her parents’ house and marry the boy. In some such cases, the conflict brings tragic consequences.

A young girl, Riya, fell in love with a boy named Chirag in college. During their four years of undergraduate study, they grew closer. Both of them graduated from college. Riya graduated with a 4.0 GPA and Chirag barely made it to the required 2.5 GPA. Riya immediately got a job while Chirag had difficulty finding a job. A year passed. Riya and Chirag continued to meet each other often and were thinking to get married in proper time. After the completion of the second year of her job, Riya decided to introduce her boyfriend, Chirag, to her parents as she was sincerely thinking of marrying him. Riya told Chirag, “My parents are spiritually inclined. Be careful when you talk to them”.

One day, finding that her parents were in a good mood, Riya explained that she had to tell them something. Her parents immediately understood and asked, “Who is he?” Then, Riya told her parents how she met Chirag in college, how they became close to each other, and that she thinks that it is the proper time for them to meet him. Her parents were happy to meet Chirag. A day was set for Chirag to come to their house.

The day of the meeting came. Since morning, Riya was nervous, thinking of various possibilities that could happen during the meeting and how each possibility would affect her future life. She focused her mind on doing chores to kill time. The meeting time came. Riya and her parents were ready half an hour before the time Chirag was to arrive. He was 10 minutes late. For Riya, one minute was like an hour. Chirag was nervous. Riya introduced Chirag to her parents and vice a versa. After initial greetings, Riya offered some snacks and soft drinks to all. After some time, Riya’s mother suggested that her husband talk to Chirag personally in another room.

Riya’s father and Chirag went to a room. Chirag was even more nervous, but the father made him feel comfortable. After half an hour of talking, they both came out. Chirag had to go somewhere, and Riya decided to go with him.

After Riya and Chirag left, Riya’s mother said that Chirag looked handsome and it seemed that Riya and Chirag liked each other. Then, she asked her husband how the meeting was and what he thought of Chirag. Riya’s father smiled and said, “Chirag thinks that ‘I am God.’” Her mother asked, “Why does he think that way?” Riya’s father said that she should listen to Chirag’s answers to his questions:

Q: “Do you have a job?”

Chirag, “No, but, by God’s will, I will find a job.”

Q: “Do you have a place to live?”

Chirag, “No, not at present. I am living with my friend, but, by God’s will, I will find a place to live.”

Q: “Do you have a car?”

Chirag, “No, but I am sure God will provide me a car.”

Q: “Do you have a bank account?”

Chirag, “No, but when, by God’s will, I will get some money, I will open an account.”

Q: “What are your future plans?”

Chirag, “I don’t have any future plans, but whatever God suggest to me, I will do it.”

Riya’s father told his wife, “Do you see? He thinks that I am God and will provide all these things to him!” 🙂 🙂 🙂

Note:  Poor Chirag tried to please Riya’s spiritually-inclined parents by bringing God into every sentence. Let Riya’s parents decide whatever they want to do in this situation. The readers too can make their own decision as to what they would do in a similar situation. I am not interested in judging anyone or suggesting to anyone what they should do. I am only interested to reflect upon the following important topics which came to my mind from the story:

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Self-surrender:

In almost all religions, it is mentioned that one has to surrender to God. Even Buddha, who was considered a non-believer, taught his disciples, “Buddham Sharanam Gachhami…” This means, “Surrender to Buddha, Dharma, and Sangha.”

Thus, self-surrender is considered a most important and necessary step  for spiritual progress. Many people shirk at the idea of self-surrender on the spiritual path, yet there is no hesitation to surrender to plumbers, electricians, mechanics, doctors, or even to the pilots of aircrafts. Of course, in all fields, people have been cheated when they surrendered. But, there is no other way. If we doubt everything, we cannot live in the world. We need to have faith. We must check the qualifications of people, make educated choices, and have trust in the people who take care of the things related to our lives and sometimes of our lives themselves. After making the choice, we can keep our eyes open during the process and make the necessary adjustments.

We follow this process easily for worldly matters. However, in religion, people tend to blindly surrender without ever questioning anything. Thus, ills come out from such so-called religious teachers. I think people separate religion and spirituality based on whether people question keeping their minds open or not. In religion, people blindly follow their religious leaders and never question a single thing. Meanwhile, in spirituality, people follow the fundamental and important parts of religion and are not afraid of asking questions about anything they do not understand or agree with. They question because they want to understand exactly what teachers or the scriptures say so that they can make spiritual progress. Also, they do not want to do something harmful or inappropriate in the name of religion.

Self-surrender and self-efforts:

Still, on the spiritual path, misunderstandings happen. In the name of self-surrender, people surrender their efforts, but not the little self. Many times, after starting spiritual practices, people become lazy and less productive in their daily lives. Actually, spiritual practices should give us more strength to perform our responsibilities and make our lives more productive and meaningful.

To me, self-surrender to God means: (1) surrendering our ego to God (becoming humble and developing gratitude), (2) making God our goal (trying to practice all the virtues of God), and (3) performing all responsibilities as an offering to God (with full hearts and focused minds to acquire knowledge and devotion). Self-surrender helps us make self-efforts.

Grace:

In the Bhagavad Gita, Sri Krishna said that the success of every action depends on five factors: (1) a field of actions, (2) tools to perform the actions, (3) knowledge to perform, (4) actual performance, and (5) divine grace. We have control of the first four parts of every action, but we cannot guarantee their success. A natural calamity, a health problem, or a problem from society may affect the results of our actions. That is why we seek the grace of God – to take care of the fifth factor. But, we must take care of the first four factors in order to seek the divine grace. Without fulfilling the four factors, seeking divine grace is meaningless.

Also, if we do not make self-efforts, then we cannot recognize the divine grace and its importance. Saints and sages say that the grace of God is always there. If we make efforts to fulfill the above-mentioned first four factors in any field (including spirituality), then we will see the divine grace and will understand the importance of the grace. God’s grace may come in the form of failure which may be for our own good in the long run.

(Thanks to Pallavi Tatapudy for editing this post and Viraj Khetani for providing the illustration.)

What is the Solution?

The following post is based on a story I heard from Swami Adiswarananda, the Spiritual Leader of the Ramakrishna Vivekananda Center in New York from 1973 to 2007.

In the U.S., we see monkeys only in zoos.  Many cannot imagine a group of monkeys wandering around in cities or villages, from place to place, mainly in search of food, and maybe in order to maintain or develop their “jumping” skills.  They climb up on a tree and swing from branch to branch or jump around on the terraces of buildings a few stories high. In India, we see many such groups of monkeys.

This is the story of one such group of monkeys in search of food.  In India, the weather is mostly sunny, so the windows remain open most of the time.  In order to stop monkeys from entering into houses through the windows, houses have iron window grilles built in. Those people who cannot afford such windows have uninvited monkey guests in the house. I have known a few people who were shockingly surprised to see monkeys in their house. If the windows are without grilles, monkeys simply go to the kitchen, grab food, and jump out of the house.  If windows have grilles and any food is near the window grilles, monkeys extend their hands inside and grab it.

A group of monkeys is made out of a family or a few families. One such group of monkeys was jumping on the terraces of houses looking for food. Among them was a small monkey who was learning all the monkey tricks and ways to get food.  He was jumping around and all of a sudden he saw an apple lying inside a grilled window.  It was a big, red apple.  Any mouth becomes watery by seeing this apple. The little monkey jumped to the window, extended its hand inside the grille, and grabbed the apple.

The monkey was delighted to grab the apple. But, as soon as it tried to bring its hand out with the apple, it found that its hand is not coming out of the grille. The apple was much bigger than the space between the grilles.  It tried grabbing the apple in different ways, but its hand could not come out with the apple.  It seemed that there was no one in the house. The small monkey started screaming for help.  The other monkeys came running to help this little one. They saw the problem and they all started thinking about how to solve it.

One monkey said, “Let us find some sharp object. Then slowly we will cut the grille.” That monkey found a sharp object and started cutting the grille.  One monkey said, “Let us try to pull out the whole window.  Then the little monkey will have to walk around its whole life with a window on its hand.”  That monkey tried to pull out the whole window.  One monkey said, “Let us pray to God.  I am sure God will find a solution.”  It started praying to God.  One monkey said, “Try to think that your hand is not caught by the grille.”  Among all the commotion, one elderly monkey came and told the little monkey, “Just let go of the apple and pull out your hand.”

Lesson learned:  Many times we unnecessarily suffer because we have some desire to fulfill.  If the desire is useless or unneeded, then it is better to give it up.  With that act of giving something up, we may not lose anything. In fact, our mind will be free from hundreds of worries and struggles.

Sri Ramakrishna gave an example of this.  A bird picked up a fish and wanted to eat it.  The bird sat on a branch of a tree to eat the fish.

But, several crows saw that the bird had a fish.  They all followed the bird with piercing cawing.  The bird tried to run away from the craws and tried to sit on various trees and places.  But, all the crows followed it and started poking it with their beaks.  Finally, the fish fell from the bird’s mouth.  All of the crows followed the fish and left the bird alone.  The bird then peacefully sat on a tree.  Thus, worries and struggles follow a desire.

The question might arise that, knowing this fact, should we give up all desires? It is true that each desire brings worries and problems.  But, as long as we have a body, we will have desires; like desire to live and survive.  So, what we should do?

Well, desires are of various kinds.  The Shrimad Bhagavad Gita says, “I am the desire in all beings that is not contrary to dharma (7.11).” That means God, the Creator of the Universe, has created righteous desires in all beings.  The desires which uplift us from the physical level to the spiritual level, destroy our bondages, and are not harmful to anyone are okay to fulfill.  But, our mind runs around and fills itself up with hundreds of other desires, which make us slaves to our senses and are harmful to us and/or others. Such desires should be shunned.  These useless and harmful desires bring us many worries and frustrations.  Buddha said that the cause of suffering is desires.  In life, we get tired by carrying a baggage of extra desires.  If we want peace of mind, then we have to reduce the desires to a minimum—the desires which free us from all bondages.

Deeper Meaning of the Story:

Imagine an ocean filled with millions of waves.  The Ultimate Reality (Brahman or Consciousness) is like an ocean.  Each wave is an individual being or an object. All beings and objects appear as waves (as names and forms) for a little time and then merge into the ocean of The Ultimate Reality.  When each wave thinks of itself as a separate entity, then it has conflicts with all other waves and has fears of disappearing as a wave. Similarly, if we think ourselves with our names and forms as separate entities from the Ultimate Reality, then all the problems start.  We think that the whole world is against us, that nature is against us, trying to crush us down, and we have a constant fear of death.  When we give up our separate identity, then all the problems and fears go away.  At that time, keeping in mind ourselves as the Spirit (or Atman, a part of the Ultimate Reality), we just act, like actors/actresses of a play, in the world as separate entities with names and forms.

Notes:  (i)  The photo -1 is from the Bangalore Gallery , India (ii) Photo – 2 is from dreamtime.com and (iii) the sketch -1 is made by Sneha Shah.       

(Thanks to Radha Dhar for editing and Sneha Shah for providing an illustration.)